Your fairytale ending awaits IF you're willing to do the work. What if this was your last Valentine's Day alone?
“…but it’s not a story!” you protest. “It’s what really happened to me! I can’t help that it turned out the way it did. Believe me; I would have preferred another outcome. But there you have it….”
What is the story you tell? Is it the one about your horrible childhood? About the parents who told you that you’d better find someone to marry because you weren’t all that smart? (That one was mine.) Or was it growing up and watching your parents fighting all the time and then repeating their story in your own life? Does your heart ache from all the unreliable people showing up in your life and cheating on you over and over again? Are you burning with anger over the narcissists, the users, and all those who neglected you and weren’t there for you? Does career or financial success remain elusive? Maybe your story is that you simply wish there could have been more – more fun, satisfaction, fulfillment, intimacy, love? What is your life story, as told by you, the author?
The problem with your story is that you are forced to live it. Whatever your beliefs are, you are forced to live them over and over again. Haven’t you ever noticed that bad luck seems to follow people? You read about a woman who has been abused, and her next relationship is just the same. Someone’s been cheated on – and the next guy does the same. Well, guess what – there is a scientific reason for that! There is a tiny center in your brain called the reticular activating system, which has a very important job. It sorts and filters the information that streams at you each and every day. There are billions of bits of data coming at you, and if you saw it all, you would be inundated and unable to make sense of your world. So, the reticular activating system filters out the extraneous and allows through only the information you need to make sense of your world. How does the reticular activating system decide what is extraneous and what’s important? It uses a particular set of parameters, and those parameters are your beliefs. If it is something you consider true, the information is ushered right on through. If it is something you believe to be false, it is dismissed accordingly. The majority of information is ignored completely – those become your blind spots. You know, those decisions you make where you wonder whether you’ve lost your mind?
While the filters of the reticular activating system are vitally important, they also ensure that you meet your beliefs over and over again and that your life becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of the story in your head. Well, what if I told you that your story is just a story? And what if I told you that as the author, you could just as easily tell another story, and then along with your story, everything else would also change in your life for you? Could it really be that easy? Well, not quite – but almost.
Ultimately, everything you experience is just a story in your head because all of life is only in your head. As human beings, we don’t experience actual reality; we only ever experience our interpretation of reality. Information enters through the senses, and the mind models a facsimile of the world our senses perceive. Your ears translate sound waves, and you perceive music or words. Your eyes compute light waves into images but how these light waves are translated is highly subjective. No set of eyes or ears translates data in the exact same way as another. Nobody even has identical experiences of the same situation because our different lives have shaped our unique brains differently.
We don’t experience reality; we experience our thoughts about reality. In other words, we experience only our own opinions and beliefs about things. Except, we don’t think of our beliefs as opinions; we consider them knowledge. We don’t question that what we believe is rational, logical, impartial, and based on objective analysis - in other words, rock-solid fact. That’s fine when your story is serving you, but sometimes your story can leave you painted into a corner.
Truth is Entirely Subjective
It may behoove us all to keep a more open mind. Your way is not the only way; there are many ways to look at things. Heisenberg – the theoretical physicist, not the one from Breaking Bad - found that an object changes on an energetic level when it is observed. It seems that truth is not only in the eye of the beholder but also changes with the eye of the beholder! By this, I mean to say don't believe everything you think. Leave some room for the possibility that your opinions might not be the final authority on things - particularly if they’re not serving you! If your beliefs tell you that your perfect love doesn't exist, then you’re cutting yourself unnecessarily short. What’s more, is that it doesn't mean you're right. (In fact, you’re wrong!) You’re just not seeing all the possibilities. When you see things your way, you’re unavoidably not seeing the other point of view. At no time do you ever see the whole picture, and sometimes, with how our filters work, you may not be seeing anything because you have a blind spot.
Look, your story is your story; the question is, do you want it to stay that way for the rest of your life? You can continue to hold people, place, circumstances – and yourself – in contempt, or you can be and do and have everything you want. Happiness and fulfillment are literally just around the corner if you’re willing to tell a different story
The List Method is a simple step-by-step way to find the love of your life using neuroscience and tried and true strategies to help you uncover and clear away your roadblocks to a successful relationship. You will learn to understand your own deep needs and desires so you can create a crystal-clear vision of the partner of your dreams. Armed with your List, it could potentially take only days for you to meet the love of your life. Guaranteed!!
Stop fooling yourself that you're totally fine being single. I get it - you've made yourself believe you can have a perfectly fine life on your own because you're so done with the hurt, drama, and games people play. But you're only fooling yourself- the human need to love and be loved never goes away. Besides, it's not love you're sick of - just bad love.
But what if you could find your epic, fairytale, forever romance? I know right now you're probably thinking that it doesn't really exist. It's just that - a fairytale, something that doesn't exist in real life. Real relationships are hard work - but that's only when you haven't met your perfect match! I promise you that the love of your life is out there, hoping to find you as much as you them.
You're not just a left shoe!
You have a perfect match, a person who will adore you and appreciate you, and be grateful for every moment spent with you. Someone who will love you exactly as you are because you're the perfect match in every area of life for them as well. But that kind of love doesn't just happen by accident. You won't find them through random hook-ups from the available dating pool. We accept the value of planning ahead in every area of life. We wouldn't think of spending even one thin dime on a business venture without projections and objectives, and detailed plans. Yet, we're willing to fly blind as bats when it comes to the most relationship of our lives - the one on which we expect to spend significant parts of our life - and potentially half of our net worth!
The List Method aims to hack the way we go about finding love. Instead of relying on dumb luck to find someone and then spending precious time on trial and error to figure out if they were the one, or meeting someone who more or less fits the bill and then working hard to make it stay afloat, you'll learn about the inner workings of your mind to see why you so often sabotage your own happiness. You'll come to recognize and clear away your internal barriers to successful relationships. You'll become conscious of your personal desires, standards, values, hopes, and dreams so you can create a detailed, descriptive List of the ONE person who is your perfect match. Armed with your List it could potentially take only days to find the love of your life.
That's how it worked for me - and now, years later, I still have a major crush on my love and it just grows and grows. I know it can work for you, too if you're willing to do the work. Along with the book, you'll receive a FREE workbook and two FREE visualizations to help you create the necessary new neural connection in your brain to allow you to experience your bright, new future.
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Valentine's Day is just around the corner, and it's hard to ignore the reminders that you're still single. Maybe you think you're done with love - perhaps you're so over the whole thing that you'd like to pretend it doesn't exist. But if you're honest, it's not really love that you're sick of - only bad love. What if there was a way for you to find someone who worshipped the ground you walk on, who made life both sweeter and more fulfilling? Believe it or not, this isn't as far-fetched as it sounds!
The fact of the matter is we can't fight Mother Nature. Hormones run us, instinct drives us to perpetuate the species, and we are social animals who crave touch and companionship. The desire to love and be loved never really goes away - no matter how much we try to deny it! The List Method hacks the way we go about trying to find love. It shows you the inner workings of the mind and helps you remove your internal barriers to successful relationships so you can create a detailed, descriptive List of the ONE person who is your absolute perfect match. (Believe me, they’re out there looking for you as fervently as you are for them!)
Life is short! Why waste time in frustrating relationships?
Life is short! Why waste time in frustrating relationships trying to figure out whether or not you can make it work with someone who turns out to be absolutely wrong for you or maybe even cheats on you? Isn’t it time to stop doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome? The List Method is an innovative new way that’s based on neuroscience. Instead of narrowing down potential partners from the dating pool, you’ll learn to clearly define your own needs, values, standards, and desires, so it’s easy to come up with a detailed List of the one person who is the love of your life. The one who matches you and with whom you’ll match perfectly in every area – the one who fulfills all your fantasies. Fairytales really do come true when you believe – if you’re absolutely clear about what you want.
At the end of the day, no one can deny biology and our instinctive need for connection and intimacy. Don’t let yourself settle for anything less than the One who is meant for you. Read the List Method, do the work, and then with your List at hand, the love of your life could appear right around the next corner...maybe even just in time for Valentine’s Day! Now that would be sweet!
The List Method is a simple step-by-step way to find the love of your life using neuroscience and tried and true strategies to help you uncover and clear away your roadblocks to a successful relationship. You will learn to understand your own deep needs and desires to create a crystal-clear vision of the partner of your dreams. Armed with your List, it could potentially take only days for you to meet the love of your life. Guaranteed!!
"The List Method helped me understand what is getting in my way as I seek true love."
George Sand said, “there is only one happiness in life, and that is to love and be loved.” It’s in our nature as human beings to long for sweet, harmonious, devoted love. We’re simply wired that way, which is why a successful personal relationship carries with it enormous physical, mental, and practical benefits.
There is a unique sense of confidence and competence and an abiding sense of joy that arises from a successful, intimate relationship that cannot be attained in any other way. Life changes when you share your life with someone who completely adores you, worship the ground you walk on, and does anything for you. You’ll find yourself living on a whole new level. Numerous medical research studies have concluded that people in harmonious relationships not only live considerably longer but also remain far healthier. Of course, when you’re in it, you don’t need scientific studies to tell you this because you feel it every moment of every day. From the moment my eyes open in the morning, seeing the love of my life lying next to me brings a smile to my face. I can’t help it. She is a vision, stunning, sexy, absolutely gorgeous – at least to my eyes. Because she’s my “One.” Then she wakes up, and I see her love for me in her eyes, and it takes my breath away! I cannot believe my luck that I get to wake up next to such an angel who is so perfect for me. I only pray that I get to spend ten more lifetimes with her. That’s the way love is meant to feel!
What's In The Way of Your Heart's Desire
Whether we admit it to ourselves or not, deep down we all dream of having such a love. We want it; we need it. Sadly, very few ever seem to find it. So, we tell ourselves that we’re fine without it. We ignore the gnawing sadness that robs us of vital energy. We keep ourselves busy, seeking distraction so we don’t have to feel the pervasive loneliness. Franklin P Jones said, “Love doesn’t make the world go around. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” But we’ve never found it, so we tell ourselves that a fairytale romance is just that – a fairytale, a unicorn, something that doesn’t really exist in nature. Of course, that very belief becomes a huge roadblock of finding it. You can’t achieve success by looking at all the myriad failures and you can’t find love by looking at the rotten relationships all around. You can’t set out by believing that it takes “hard work” to be in a relationship – because whatever you believe, you always get to be right!
The reason we don’t find that epic fairytale love is not that it doesn’t exist; it’s because of the completely wrong way we go about finding it. We seem to think it should just magically happen by accident but what in life ever works like that? The important stuff never just falls in your lap. You have to know what you want in order to get it because if you don’t know what you want, chances are slim that you’ll ever find it!
There is actually a scientific reason for that. The human mind perceives only through the limited framework of our beliefs. There is an area in the brain called the reticular activating system that actually filters, sorts, and sifts through your experiences and highlights for your only those things you believe. So, history must necessarily always repeat itself and life becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy – or at least it seems that way.
Could it be that the only thing that separates you from your heart’s desire is your head? Could it be that the only barrier to the epic romance you are secretly dreaming of, is within you? Perhaps it’s worth being a little more open minded when it comes to love - at least don’t be so convinced that unicorns don’t exist. Because they surely do!